tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10120139.post3754730492445943312..comments2023-10-16T02:42:13.857-07:00Comments on Shadow of the Waxwing: Did You Save Your Receipt?S.M. Elliotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13790067061938701596noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10120139.post-13207104137205659952010-04-22T07:01:36.329-07:002010-04-22T07:01:36.329-07:00Hi tweets: I notice you havent been to weight watc...Hi tweets: I notice you havent been to weight watchers recently.<br /><br />What really pisses me off is the number of readily available children in ones own country are being ignored, Its a one upmanship thingy over your neighbors, copying 'B' Grade movie stars exploits overseas in their chase for a more exotic child of differing race usually purchased with your movie dollar. "Gah"<br />These children are more than likely shunted off into the care of wet nurses or nannies.Vesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15390020901033513032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10120139.post-31017633805074962542010-04-22T06:51:51.615-07:002010-04-22T06:51:51.615-07:00Hi tweets: I notice you havent been to weight watc...Hi tweets: I notice you havent been to weight watchers recently.<br /><br />What really pisses me off is the number of readily available children in ones own country are being ignored, Its a one upmanship thingy over your neighbors, copying 'B' Grade movie stars exploits overseas in their chase for a more exotic child of differing race usually purchased with your movie dollar. "Gah"<br />These children are more than likely shunted off into the care of wet nurses or nannies.Vesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15390020901033513032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10120139.post-79373119945611745902010-04-22T00:59:55.172-07:002010-04-22T00:59:55.172-07:00It is called 'the new toy syndrome'Commenc...It is called 'the new toy syndrome'Commencing at a high demand expectation, a sort of 7 year itch thing and increasing boredom. The poeple who adopt these children should sign a document implying that it is a permanent arrangement with no escape loopholes, but also they must be well informed of any mental or physical traits that may be evident at the time of the adoption.<br />Maybe a cooling off period of a month or so, should you find the child inconpatible with the adoptive parents.<br />Also If the child wishes to back out of the adoption it too should be given tha choice.<br />Should any child be dumped as suggested the dumpers are not reimbursed for any monies spent on the adoption.<br /><br />Hi how's your sweet charming mother. x.Vesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15390020901033513032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10120139.post-11912933016603019282010-04-22T00:59:25.199-07:002010-04-22T00:59:25.199-07:00It is called 'the new toy syndrome'Commenc...It is called 'the new toy syndrome'Commencing at a high demand expectation, a sort of 7 year itch thing and increasing boredom. The poeple who adopt these children should sign a document implying that it is a permanent arrangement with no escape loopholes, but also they must be well informed of any mental or physical traits that may be evident at the time of the adoption.<br />Maybe a cooling off period of a month or so, should you find the child inconpatible with the adoptive parents.<br />Also If the child wishes to back out of the adoption it too should be given tha choice.<br />Should any child be dumped as suggested the dumpers are not reimbursed for any monies spent on the adoption.<br /><br />Hi how's your sweet charming mother. x.Vesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15390020901033513032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10120139.post-49367299625191713152010-04-15T16:26:09.828-07:002010-04-15T16:26:09.828-07:00Why thank you, Alan. :)
I know, Tweets, it's ...Why thank you, Alan. :)<br /><br />I know, Tweets, it's such a sad and crazy situation. I hope Russia sticks to its guns and forbids any more foreign adoptions until some safeguards are put in place. There definitely needs to be some kind of screening, where people looking to adopt would at least have to know some Russian and be made aware of any existing emotional/behavioral problems. <br /><br />Another very disturbing thing about fringe Reactive Attachment Disorder "therapy" methods: Paradoxical punishment. This is where the parents try to teach a child not to do something by making them do it to excess, whether it's eating or exercising or drinking water. One little girl died of water intoxication after being forced to drink a massive amount of water as punishment, and to date at least two little boys have died from sodium poisoning because in an effort to get them to stop overeating (very common with neglected children who didn't get enough to eat before being adopted), they were given huge quantities of salt. One woman is spending life in prison for this, but the other got off the hook. :(S.M. Elliotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13512630781945959680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10120139.post-55334513682840484212010-04-15T08:01:27.473-07:002010-04-15T08:01:27.473-07:00You know SME I just recently saw on TV that this c...You know SME I just recently saw on TV that this couple adopted a little boy from Russia and want another one or a girl but they wont let them because they think abuse is in the picture.. There have not been any formal charges yet against this couple but they are being watched.. Its so dang sad.. You dont take a child from another country and abuse them and neglet them. You adopted them because you wanted children and wanted to take care of someone.. This disturbs me with every cell in my body.. I hate people who would do such a thing just because they are the adults.. Its just plain wrong..tweetey30https://www.blogger.com/profile/04780963604845788306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10120139.post-22196556228464661512010-04-13T22:50:53.777-07:002010-04-13T22:50:53.777-07:00One of the more insightful columns I've read h...One of the more insightful columns I've read here in quite some time. That's for bringing attention to this Sarah.Al-truisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07469718360794002281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10120139.post-89807756932751482742010-04-13T17:59:46.595-07:002010-04-13T17:59:46.595-07:00There definitely need to be more safeguards and re...There definitely need to be more safeguards and resources in place to help prospective adoptive parents realize and cope with the fact that older children are almost guaranteed to have baggage. I think most of the people who gave up on their Russian adoptees expected gratitude above all else, but no child is going to be grateful about being suddenly transplanted to an alien environment with different language, different food, different customs, and many expectations.S.M. Elliotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13512630781945959680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10120139.post-41196858846338797772010-04-12T06:49:17.328-07:002010-04-12T06:49:17.328-07:00This is really disturbing. I do think there are t...This is really disturbing. I do think there are two things at play that make this different than typical adoptions.<br /><br />1) There are ALWAYS emotional, behavioral, and mental challenges to face when adopting a toddler or child. They come with pre-existing behaviors, emotional trauma, senses of rejection that are already there from being abandoned (and likely abused) before. <br /><br />2) Language & cultural barriers and the fact that the "parents" aren't bothered to learn about these things.<br /><br />Put those two together and you have a very unique problem that adoption agencies are NOT handling correctly. Anyone who adopts a child (not baby, child) from anywhere, but especially a foreign country, should be legally obligated to attend therapy counseling for at least a year to work through all those problems.<br /><br />A child isn't a blank slate like a baby. Adopting a baby from a foreign country is one thing. A child who already has a history is quite another and it should not be allowed except under closely monitored circumstances.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17129109937230440481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10120139.post-91096507772977932712010-04-11T10:24:22.240-07:002010-04-11T10:24:22.240-07:00I remember well your previous post on this topic. ...I remember well your previous post on this topic. It's just sick and disgusting...Wandering Coyotehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01478039463695542535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10120139.post-36897621724816737442010-04-10T10:15:34.686-07:002010-04-10T10:15:34.686-07:00I remember this story. Its sad.. I mean those kids...I remember this story. Its sad.. I mean those kids dont have what we have here why do you think they were up for adoption in the first place??? <br /><br />I dont get why they have to be such dicks about it. I mean come on you always meet with the children before you adopt them and if you see something you dont like or dont want dont take that child.. But come on they need families to love them too. If I could I would take them. <br /><br />I love children of all ages.. It takes time to get used to each other when you adopt.. I mean come on didnt it take you and the kids time to adjust when you and Doug stated dating?? its just like that in many ways..tweetey30https://www.blogger.com/profile/04780963604845788306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10120139.post-24169274842870948332010-04-09T17:29:55.062-07:002010-04-09T17:29:55.062-07:00That is deeply disturbing. I had no idea about thi...That is deeply disturbing. I had no idea about this story. It is clearly far too easy to adopt, and sadly there is nothing in place to help anyone (child or parent) prepare or adjust to their new life. It is a shocking story.sphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00026913030147899339noreply@blogger.com